The non-profit re-writing your sex story

WELCOME TO
COME WHAT MAY:

A vibrant and inclusive
non-profit community led by a team of Sex Educators, Facilitators & Practitioners

Our Mission

To create safe, inclusive and free-to-access spaces for you to: 

// Explore your sexuality and find your true expression

// Combat sexual shame

// Destigmatise “radical” and “taboo” subjects

// Have open, honest and vulnerable conversations about sex

// Have a mind, body and soul connection to sex

What we do

Since conception in March 2022, we have held hundreds of events for our community reaching thousands of people across six continents.
These events are online and in-person.

As part of our offering we also have a free online platform which hosts educational content from thought-leaders within the sexuality space.

ANN VOSKAMP:

“Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces”. 

Check out our Offerings

From free fortnightly circles, to month long challenges and online festivals… we’ve got you covered.

FREE OFFERINGS

Circle

Every month we hold a men’s circle, a women’s circle, and a mixed circle with a different theme each month.

Month Long Challenges

We also offer you the chance to join month long containers that give you the opportunity to dive deep.

Other

Want to go even deeper? Join our online festival, our parent forum or train to hold your own circles.

In-depth experiences

Ready to dive deeper into themes around sex, self pleasure and semen retention? Register your interest and get ready to dive in with us!

Why we do what we do

For the Individual:

Cultivating a deeper and more fulfilling sexual connection contributes to a happier and healthier overall lifestyle. Increasing your awareness and strengthening the connection to your beliefs, actions, and behaviours in your sexual experiences can enhance the quality of your intimate life. This heightened presence and empowerment positively impacts various aspects of your well-being, as well as the people closest to you.

For Society: 

Did you know 1 in 10 nine year olds have seen pornography? We truly believe we are in an unprecedented battle for our Sexuality! As the wisdom keepers in society, it us up to us to teach the next generation of young people how to express their sexuality in positive ways. Why is it up to us? Check the stats: 

Meet our Team

FAQs

  • During online Circles, yes you must have your camera on at all times.

    If you are joining a Workshop or Masterclass, this will be at the discretion of the Facilitator.

  • No. Your personal experience is what matters, not the amount. We have had people who have never had sex sit in Circle, and we learnt so much from that person!

  • Our Circles have a number of Agreements that participant must adhere to. Confidentiality is one of those Agreements. Please see our Circle tab for more detailed information of that Agreement.

  • Yes everybody is welcome at Come What May and the more diverse expressions of sexuality the better!

    We do not currently have a specific Circle for Non-Binary people (it's on the way soon), but they can join our Mixed Circle.

  • Yes you can. We run a free Circle Training twice a year in which we will teach you everything you need to know to run a Circle.

  • "I can say unequivocally this 2-day inaugural Training was high calibre, clear, and unbelievably concentrated in following through with the course remit. Come What May's mission being societal reform via open healthy discussion around sexuality, has at every level - grassroots, content, best practice - succeeded beyond any expectations .. minus any price tag (!); sincerely look forward to see what is next from these good people."

    Circle Training Student

  • "The space created by our hosts was full of safety, integrity, curiosity and a beautiful portrayal of humaneness. I can't wait to see what happens next and what we will co-create through the medicine and joy of circles "

    Circle Training Student

  • "Thank you, all of you, for the beautiful gifts you gave this month, simply by being yourselves, open & vulnerable. I am taking many things from this month, but mainly healing my grief, re-connecting with myself in new (and old) ways. Also, having the beautiful reminder that these connections & ways of being are possible. Thank you"

    MMMM Participant

  • “Joining MMMM has been a powermove to land more into my pleasure. The space was held wonderfully by the facilitators and the group was very supportive. Mostly it was great to have a focus on your own pleasure. There are fun exercises, and it’s been such a great gift to explore my own pleasure in new dimensions. Will do this again this year because it’s been so playful, juicy and fun to do! Yummy container to connect to yourself, discover your own sexual power and own your sensuality.”

    MMMM Participant

  • “The monthly challenge I did in November with CWM changed the relationship I have with my body, and with my pleasure. The first thing was setting an intention for the month, and acting on it. The second was sharing my experiences with others in the weekly online circle. Surprisingly I felt heard and seen - by strangers, mind you. Opening up to others, and them opening up to you about their experience helped to identify and dissolve shame related to sexuality, increased my vital energy levels and helped discover new ways I want, and not want, to be touched. For instance, I've always focused on pleasure concentrated in my genital area - but discovered I do not ask myself about consent, and how I want to be touched today, in this particular moment. Paying attention to what my body wants here and now led to a deeper, more grounded relationship with myself, which in turn helped to be more present with others. Thank you Sean, Steve, Yuna and the whole CWM team and community for this life changing opportunity.”

    November Participant

  • "Thank you guys for a very beautiful month, so many things to be grateful for. I fell in love with my cock again and realised how beautiful, powerful and energetic it is. I did cum at the end but it was very intentional and very beautiful."

    Cum Not May Participant

  • "I felt very connected to the group this month and deeply enjoyed the prolonged retention and the sharings.My wins are becoming more aware of what used to happen when my motivation to retain semen would suddenly vanish during sex, this inner voice that convinced me to cum - now thanks to the group commitment of retention I could observe that voice and let it go. And the big win for me personally is I really feel a sustained higher energy and focus and quality relating to my partner, compared to when I ejaculated and felt a drop of energy and of intimacy. Another win is gaining more intimacy with brothers in this group by hearing their wins and challenges in this intimate process."

    Cum Not May Participant